A Birthing Plan??

I get these email updates weekly from www.babycenter.com and it made me aware this week that I should be creating a "birthing plan", so I started to think about what this could mean, and what I might possibly need to "plan" for. Maybe I'm naive, but I just figured when the "big day" comes I would show up at the hospital, get my epidural, and push when it was time to push...it's not rocket science, folks! But as I looked over the suggested "birthing plan" that the website provides, I very quickly realized that my simple plan, isn't a plan at all!! I haven't given a SINGLE thought to the things that were suggested I should "plan" for, and don't even know what some of this stuff means!!! Do I want the light's dimmed? Soft music playing? if so, what songs and track numbers? Do I want to go home if I'm not in active labor? Once admitted, do I want to wear my contacts (this, apparently, is a serious question)? do I want to wear my own clothes? do I want to eat? drink? If available, would I like to try a birthing stool? ball? squatting bar? When it's time to push, do I want to push instinctively, or be coached? Do I want a mirror to watch? Do I want to feel the head? Do I want to hold the baby immediately or not?
I'm extremely confused as to why these things need to be written down beforehand for 2 reasons. 1) because I don't know why I can't just use my vocal cords when asked certain questions like: "who do you want to be in the room?" or "do you want to see your baby coming out?" and 2) Even if I was to write all of this stuff down, I don't know how I'm going to be feeling at that time!!! Yes, I may want to listen to Mozart NOW, but when I'm in so much pain THEN, the last thing I may want to hear is his no. 41 symphony, and want him to take a hike! and I may want my husband to coach me through my pushing NOW, but I may not be too keen on him telling me what to do THEN.
So, while I admire all of those "planners" out there(who I'm sure will be more equipped than I), I think I will stick to my simple, little, "no-plan" plan for now, which kind of fits my carefree attitude anyway!

Oops...Did I Do That???????

If you were to ask my husband what the ONE thing I need to work on was, he would definitely say "RESPONSIBILITY." I AM working on it, really I am....I think. Being responsible kind of goes hand in hand with being careful, and those are two very weak areas in my life. If I was a cartoon my "quote bubble" would read: "oops...did I do that????" (remember Urkle from Family Matters? yep, That's me!) to which Chris' "bubble" would read: "If it's not one thing, it's another with you!"
I write this post as a result of a couple of "accidents" over the last month. My cellphone contract was to be renewed, and I REALLY wanted an Iphone...really bad! And my husband, knowing me very well, thought better of that request, and said "NO!" but that if I was careful with my new phone and took care of it, then maybe next time we could talk about it. Welll....3 weeks went by, and I was taking care of my new phone, until I couldn't find it, and I remembered that they were in the shorts I wore the day before...those shorts were in the washing machine.
Needless to say, my husband was not too pleased with me, but I wasn't all that remorseful because I figured I should be "allowed ONE mistake" with my phone (hoping he had forgotten about the time that I dropped a phone in the toilet, and another phone had tanning oil spilled all over it). Even though he was angry, he went right out and bought me the cheapest phone they had, it wasn't a great phone but I was grateful for it!
I was just adjusting to my new phone, and coming to terms with the fact that my 12 year old sister has a better phone than I, when I met my mom at Costco before my baby shower last week, and in the commotion of transferring things to other cars and being in a hurry to get to the shower on time, we sped off, merged on to I-75 (can you see where this is going?), when I heard (and saw) something fly off the roof of me car...that's right...it was my phone.
My attitude was much different after this accident! I cried the entire way to my shower, but My Love was very gracious, didn't give me a hard time, and told me to enjoy me day and that he would take care of it...and boy, did he take care of it! My "new-to-me" phone (it was my dad's OLD phone...who is the exact person I get my aloof attitude from) looks like what my phone might look like if he ventured out on to I-75 to retrieve it, it's a humble phone for a humbled me! and if I'm careful with this phone, then at the end of the month Chris may buy me the $19.95 phone I have my eye on!