I get these email updates weekly from www.babycenter.com and it made me aware this week that I should be creating a "birthing plan", so I started to think about what this could mean, and what I might possibly need to "plan" for. Maybe I'm naive, but I just figured when the "big day" comes I would show up at the hospital, get my epidural, and push when it was time to push...it's not rocket science, folks! But as I looked over the suggested "birthing plan" that the website provides, I very quickly realized that my simple plan, isn't a plan at all!! I haven't given a SINGLE thought to the things that were suggested I should "plan" for, and don't even know what some of this stuff means!!! Do I want the light's dimmed? Soft music playing? if so, what songs and track numbers? Do I want to go home if I'm not in active labor? Once admitted, do I want to wear my contacts (this, apparently, is a serious question)? do I want to wear my own clothes? do I want to eat? drink? If available, would I like to try a birthing stool? ball? squatting bar? When it's time to push, do I want to push instinctively, or be coached? Do I want a mirror to watch? Do I want to feel the head? Do I want to hold the baby immediately or not? I'm extremely confused as to why these things need to be written down beforehand for 2 reasons. 1) because I don't know why I can't just use my vocal cords when asked certain questions like: "who do you want to be in the room?" or "do you want to see your baby coming out?" and 2) Even if I was to write all of this stuff down, I don't know how I'm going to be feeling at that time!!! Yes, I may want to listen to Mozart NOW, but when I'm in so much pain THEN, the last thing I may want to hear is his no. 41 symphony, and want him to take a hike! and I may want my husband to coach me through my pushing NOW, but I may not be too keen on him telling me what to do THEN. So, while I admire all of those "planners" out there(who I'm sure will be more equipped than I), I think I will stick to my simple, little, "no-plan" plan for now, which kind of fits my carefree attitude anyway!
Wife of 4 years, mom to 1, oldest sister to 7...I'm striving to be an EXCELLENT wife, and not a perfect wife. Reading about the Prov. 31 woman is truly inspiring and something to strive for and to be encouraged by, not discouraged!