Thursday, August 22, 2013

The Wife of a Traveling Salesman...

 When I am asked what it is that my husband does for a living, I usually answer by saying that he sells something that has to do with lights...or lightbulbs....or lighting?? And honestly, I haven't bothered really trying to figure it out because it seems like when I do, he is offered a position somewhere else and then I have to learn a job description all over again. So let's just say that he sells lighting stuff and will continue to do so in some form or fashion.
 A co-worker of his came for dinner over the weekend and I got to see a different side of my husband. Sometimes I forget that he has a life outside of the walls of our house. For the most part, he knows who I know and he sees where and how I work. Sometimes I have a hard time seeing him as someone who is more than that silly 16 year old boy I've grown up with. It was at that dinner that I realized just how much weight is on his shoulders and just how much he juggles and has for the last 6+ years of our marriage. He's the picture of climbing a ladder to get to a place where he can support his little family and allow me to do what I love to do since the day we said "I do."
 As I write this, my husband is on his way home from one of his frequent business trips. The weeks that he is away on business are long. Verrrry long. And often times I get irritated or bummed when I find out that he has to go away again. However, these weeks usually serve as lessons in contentment in my life. The Lord teaches me this lesson a lot. Maybe because I never quite "get it!" The lesson usually consists of a chapter on patience, a chapter on God's grace with a lengthy final exam on thankfulness and trusting God. I usually fail the test, which is why I am taught the lesson time and time again. 
 When I think about the early years of marriage, I can see just how far we have come. We didn't have cable and we couldn't go out to eat,we rented a movie for a buck instead of going to the theaters, I had to decline shower invites because I couldn't afford a gift...BUT the Lord's blessings were always on us because He ALWAYS provided. We always had food, we always made rent, had cars that ran, tithed and had jobs. We were also blessed with the generosity of family who let me tag along on trips to Disney or taking us on trips to the beach. And I will FOREVER remember the kind man who saw a young married girl trying to buy something to make for a valentines dinner and paid for my groceries when I didn't have enough cash to pay for it. And then there was my husband, who knew I loved my job (which paid diddly squat) and never forced me to find something that paid more. A husband who delivered light bulbs during the week, worked at a gym in the evening and washed cars on the weekend so that I could do what I love.
While we were broke as a joke, I wouldn't change those early days for anything. It taught me about hard work and sacrifice, what going without is all about, all so I could do life with my friend. I would...and could do it all over again if I had to. 
 Six and a half years later and my husband is still busting it for me....for us. I will forever be thankful to my husband for all of his hard work so I can stay home with our babies. Life has gotten a little more comfortable over the years but I know it could all go away in a blink too. And that's ok, but I never in a million years would have guessed that a lightbulb delivery driver would have found so many open doors in the lightbulb world, but he has and the Lord has been sooo good to us. I hope that this post serves as a "cheat sheet" for ME when I find myself in the middle of one of my contentment lessons again.


  1. I want to thank you for this blog. I was desperately looking for any advice from other moms/wives on being the wife of a traveling salesman. My husband and I have been together for 3 1/2 years, and married for 7 months. I was a single mom for years, and what I imagined of marriage to a Christian man has been a lot different then what I have gotten. I have definitely noticed that God is using the frustration and sometimes hurt and anger to draw me to him and let him be in control. But it was good for me to know that I am not the only wife that goes through this or feels like this when her husband is constantly traveling. My husband actually "visits" us. He lives in his grandmother's home 2 1/2 hours north of us. As much as I don't agree with it, he says that he has to do that so he can travel for his job. I have spent so much time being upset about it, but God has been showing me lately to trust HIM with my hurt, anxiety, and anger; it is not my place to be in control. That is hard when you go from single mom to married mom and feeling like your husband's priorities are not in order with what you think they should be (God, Wife, Kids, Work, etc). Thank you again for writing this. It has been very encouraging

    1. Thank you for stopping by! I'm glad this was an encouragement to you. I think many of us ladies have an idea in our head about how a Christian husband should be.After almost 10 years of marriage I STILL do! But I am learning to trust in the Lord more. He knew who I would marry, it was ordained by Him. He also provided my husband with the job he has, which provides for our family. I KNOW my husband would rather be home with us all of the time, but that just isn't the real world. If you are blessed enough to have a husband who truly loves the Lord, that is a far greater blessing than many. it is HARD, but the more we can grow content in our circumstances, the more we can bless our husbands. I encourage you to read my latest post on unmet expectations,I pray it encourages as well!


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